I haven’t read a book in 8 years (my youngest is 8), but when I was asked if I would like to read and review ‘Quietly Visible’ by Carol Stewart, a book about how to hold your own as an introverted woman in the workplace, I thought it was about time I made the effort to read again, and this seemed like the perfect book to start with. I was doing really well; reading every evening at bedtime, and I’d nearly got to page 100 when I was told I was going to have my children at home with me, possibly FOR FIVE WHOLE MONTHS and now my husband is not at work either (plus one more child basically), so reading quietly before bed has become even trickier due to my brain constantly being in overdrive. So, I thought that rather than waiting to get to the end of the book, which let’s face it could take a really long time now I have to fit it in between lessons in 3D shape names and fingerspelling, I would review it now since I am over half way through in any case. You may be finding yourself with more, rather than less, time on your hands due to lockdown, in which case you may be keen to make the most of the current situation and get some useful extra reading done.
If you feel you are, or may be, an introvert (female or male) this book is well worth a read. I never even thought about it before; why I didn’t feel comfortable networking with lots of people I didn’t know – I thought everybody felt like that, but some people were just much better at ‘putting on a brave face’. There are quite a lot of ‘Ah’ moments where you recognize yourself, or how you feel in certain situations, and you realise why you are sometimes able to present yourself really confidently and sometimes feel unable to speak up, even though you have plenty to say.
‘Quietly Visible’ can be read cover to cover, or you can read the chapters in any order, as they each deal with a separate aspect of speaking up as an introvert in situations which do not generally show you off to your best. The content helps a lot with self-awareness (I’m an introvert, so there are some things I find difficult) and self-acceptance (I’m an introvert, and it’s totally fine to be one, it doesn’t make me inferior). The book offers lots of case studies and exercises that you can work through, if you chose to, in order to work out what your strengths and weaknesses are, so that you can build on the strengths that come from being an introvert and also learn techniques to lesson the anxieties that stem from that same character trait.
As an introvert I am really pretty happy staying at home, only Skyping with a few people at a time, waving at the delivery man through the window and clapping for the NHS from the privacy of our doorstep, but when this is all over, I will have finished ‘Quietly Visible’ (hopefully) and I will be ready to get back into larger groups knowing that I am an introvert, which is perfectly fine, but I will have picked up techniques to make my not so loud voice count just as much as the bigger, bolder ones.
Take care everybody.
Leading with Influence and Impact as an introverted Woman
by Carol Stewart