{"id":384,"date":"2024-08-15T09:24:04","date_gmt":"2024-08-15T09:24:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/?p=384"},"modified":"2024-08-15T09:24:04","modified_gmt":"2024-08-15T09:24:04","slug":"how-parents-can-break-through-and-help-their-children-on-results-day-and-beyond","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/2024\/08\/15\/how-parents-can-break-through-and-help-their-children-on-results-day-and-beyond\/","title":{"rendered":"How parents can break through and help their children on results day and beyond"},"content":{"rendered":"

Exam results day can be a stressful time, not least the run up to the day as households anxiously await the envelope (or email) to open!<\/p>\n

The day itself can also be a challenge, especially if the results aren\u2019t what your child was hoping for. Research has found over half of children feel worried (52%) or stressed (43%) because of exams, and with 59% of parents saying they don\u2019t feel equipped to talk to their children about mental health, it can be difficult for children and parents to break through and connect.<\/p>\n

To help parents feel better informed ahead of results day, Harriet Finlayson, Specialist Mental Health Nurse at <\/strong>Bupa<\/strong><\/a> has shared some top tips on how best to support children before, during and after results :<\/p>\n

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  1. Encourage conversation<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Create a safe space for open and honest communication. Encourage your child to express their anxieties and concerns about exams and results without judgement. Sometimes, simply talking things through can be incredibly helpful in managing stress. Validate their feelings and remind them that it is ok to feel disappointed or upset, and no matter what the result there are always options that will open new doors.<\/p>\n

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    1. Avoid comparison<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      It\u2019s natural that your child will start comparing themselves to their classmates or siblings, if their results aren\u2019t as good as they expected. However it\u2019s important to note that doing so can make them feel worse. Instead try to remind them of their own achievements which may sit outside of academia.<\/p>\n

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      1. Seek a teacher\u2019s advice<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Schools often are able to provide additional support and expertise for parents and children alike, whether that be discussing resitting exams, foundation years, vocational qualifications, or apprenticeships. Try scheduling a meeting with your child\u2019s teacher or the school\u2019s advisor and ask your child if they\u2019d like you to attend with them as well. 17% of children report that they\u2019d speak to a teacher or guidance counsellor if they felt down so may value the opportunity to speak to them one on one.<\/p>\n

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        1. Be a role model<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Being a positive role model is part of a parents job year round, but especially so in tough times. While you might not feel you have all the answers, you could consider sharing your own setbacks or past experiences and how you dealt with them. This can help to put into perspective for your child that this is something you can come back from. Your own behaviour year round can shape how your child deals with setbacks or situations where they might feel stressed or worried.<\/p>\n

          To support parents and their children in helping them to break through the bubble and be heard,\u00a0 Bupa has created a parent\u2019s guide<\/a> to opening up mental health conversations with their children. Bupa has also produced new interactive videos with mental health platform JAAQ (Just Ask a Question) to help parents have these important conversations and highlight what mental health signs to look out for.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

          Exam results day can be a stressful time, not least the run up to the day as households anxiously await the envelope (or email) to open! The day itself can also be a challenge, especially if the results aren\u2019t what your child was hoping for. Research has found over half of children feel worried (52%) […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":385,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"directory-category":[],"event_categories":[],"class_list":["post-384","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-advice"],"acf":[],"publishpress_future_action":{"enabled":false,"date":"2026-06-06 17:31:15","action":"change-status","newStatus":"draft","terms":[],"taxonomy":"category","extraData":[]},"publishpress_future_workflow_manual_trigger":{"enabledWorkflows":[]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/384","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=384"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/384\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":386,"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/384\/revisions\/386"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/385"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=384"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=384"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=384"},{"taxonomy":"directory-category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/directory-category?post=384"},{"taxonomy":"event_categories","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thefamilygrapevine.co.uk\/swlondon\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/event_categories?post=384"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}