Just ten days ago, before I started reading How Not to Murder Your ADHD Kid, this conversation would have taken place:
Me: “Have you cleaned your teeth?”
Challenging child: “I don’t know, I can’t remember.”
Me (shouting): “What do you mean you can’t remember? I have literally just asked you to clean your teeth and you have just been upstairs. If you can’t remember doing it, that means you haven’t done it and you are still trying to get out of cleaning your teeth. We have explained to you how important it is to clean your teeth, and you just try to get out of it all the time. Why are you always trying to avoid being clean?”
HOWEVER………
Having just read that ADHD / ADD children have a terrible short term memory for boring things like cleaning their teeth, this happened instead:
Me: “Have you cleaned your teeth?”
Challenging child: “I don’t know, I can’t remember.”
Me (calmly): “Feel your teeth… no, not with your fingers, with your tongue… do they feel nice and smooth and does your mouth taste minty?”
Challenging child: “Yes, I think so.”
Me: “You must have cleaned them then, great.”
It was such a relief to avoid what would have normally been a five minute shouting match ending with tears, frustration and another terrible start to the school day.
In the book, the author takes the reader through all of the classic things ADHD / ADD children do (it’s a relief when you read a trait that doesn’t apply, but then we haven’t quite got to the teenage years yet, so there is still time apparently…) and she explains how you should react and how you really shouldn’t react – unless you want to go down the door slamming, foot stomping, vein popping route.
I have used the word ‘relief’ twice already and I would say revelation and relief are two words which sum up the book for me. It feels like there has been a fly on our wall noting down what goes on and then writing a book personally for us offering better ways of dealing with things (apologies to the author, you are nothing like a fly, you are so much more helpful). To give another personal example; the author notes that ADHD / ADD children like to have bare feet, so when it happened again, instead of me shouting:
“Put your slippers on, it’s November, the floor is cold, you have a cold, why can’t you ever remember to put them on?”
I just said; “Pop back upstairs and put your slippers on please” and off they went. Clash avoided.
I cannot believe how much difference reading the book has made in such a short space of time. I don’t think I have had to shout about any of the things that normally wind me up massively on a daily basis. The book is amazingly helpful; my blood pressure really loves this book.
I could go on with example after example of how the situations described in the book are exactly what happens with us and how just knowing that the child is not intentionally trying to drive you insane is a huge help, but really you just need to know that if you have a challenging child who never seems to learn to do things the way you would expect them to be done, it could be because their brain works in a different way, so please READ THIS BOOK, your blood pressure will thank you.
Elizabeth Wickenden
Director – Grapevine Media Group
Game-changing techniques to transform the lives of ADHD children
Why this book matters:
- Up to 6% of children and 4% of adults are diagnosed with ADHD but most cases are undiagnosed!
- Careful parenting is essential for ADHD treatment – simple mistakes can be catastrophic for development
- Sources say one in four prisoners in the UK have ADHD but according to expert, Sarah Templeton, it is much higher than that and studies prove that undiagnosed people are more likely to commit crime
- Written by experienced ADHD counsellor diagnosed with ADHD in her 50’s and works with addicts and prisoners
- Book recommended by ADHD Psychiatrists & Paediatricians, SEN teachers, ADHD parents and ADHD teenage clients.
“You won’t find another book like this. Written by an experienced counsellor with ADHD who really understands ADHD kids and how to get the best out of them.”
Dr Sawhney, ADHD Specialist Paediatrician
Are you tearing your hair out trying to understand why your ADHD child doesn’t behave like other kids? Are you frustrated that standard parenting techniques just aren’t working and don’t know which way to turn?
Seeing your child struggle with ADHD can make you feel helpless, lost, frustrated and angry, especially when you don’t have strategies to help them, and you succeed.
New book How Not to Murder Your ADHD Kid, written by ADHD specialist and therapist, Sarah Templeton, is here to help! Written in an easy-to-read and humorous format, it explains EVERYTHING from the different types of ADHD to all the different ADHD traits your child might have, including the obvious and the obscure. It provides real life examples, straight from Sarah`s therapy room, of what works, what doesn’t and why.
This essential guide will teach you how to handle challenging situations, and offer actionable strategies to guide and support your ADHD child. Cleverly formatted, you can read the book cover to cover or skip to whichever issue you’re struggling with right now. It also provides a handy summary at the end of each section and space to make your own notes.
Sarah herself received a shock diagnosis of ADHD at age 51. Her experience and understanding of the challenges she faced has driven her to specialise in helping children with ADHD – she is passionate about improving their lives.
During her career, Sarah has worked in many prisons, and is concerned about the enormous number of diagnosed & undiagnosed ADHD children who end up behind bars. Determined to reverse this situation, she has dedicated her life to helping children, teachers and parents at the root of the problem – to understand and learn the very best ways to manage ADHD in childhood.
Sarah has worked successfully with hundreds of ADHD children – previous ‘teens in trouble,’ many of whom are now training to be doctors, lawyers and footballers.
This book is an essential read for anyone who is raising or working with ADHD kids. It reveals how their ADHD brain works, how to interact with them successfully and how to get the absolute best out of them in every scenario at school and at home.
How Not to Murder Your ADHD Kid: Instead Learn How to Be Your Child’s Own ADHD Coach by Sarah Templeton is out now, available on Amazon, priced £19.99
